Losing a child or a spouse is a blow no one ever foresees.Some celebrities have lost their kids and spouses and below is how they are dealing with the loss.
Norman Cousin once said
” Death is not the greatest losing life, the greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live.”
1. Peter Kabere
On April 2014, the gospel fraternity lost a talented artiste Peter Kabere after he was electrocuted while washing his car.
At the time of his death, Kaberere’s wife Njeri was expectant with their second child and the shock of of his death is something she will never be able to put in words.
Unlike many people who let depression get the best of them, Njeri has come up with creative ways to fight her grief.
Speaking to The Nairobian she said
I have found ways of coping with grief that are positive. I let my body go through such emotions as crying and feeling sad.
I talk about what I feel and express myself. I try not to numb my pain but release it eventually.
I have found that reading does help one to cope with grief. I read books that help me.
I love reading books about heaven and I find courage in the knowledge that my husband is with God. I also rest well and do the things I love.
Given that her kids are also in mourning, she includes them in the healing process.
“I do a lot of writing and journaling, which helps, besides celebrating what her husband was when alive.
She talks it out with her kids as they jam to his songs,once in a while, we visit the grave and pray together,”
2. Isabella Kituri
TV presenter Isabella Kiturui lost her spouse after battling colon cancer when she was only 25-years-old with a three-month-old baby boy.
In a past interview Isabella who is expectant with her second child said
“I mourned for eight years between 2005 and 2013. It was a shock, like a never-ending nightmare. I had been married for just one year,”
The TV girl revealed how her pastor, counseled her asking her to move on and she did so though it took a while.
From that day, Isabella Kituri decided to try and forget what had happened and she said:
I decided to remove my wedding band seven years later after a talk with my pastor who encouraged me to move on.
I had a meeting with myself. I had to stop behaving as if the world owed me for the loss and pain I suffered.
3. George Ikua
Speaking to the Nairobian about the death of his wife Janet Kanini Ikua, George said
Everything became surreal, it’s like she is still there, but she is gone.
Ikua admmitted small blessing have helped him. He is tighter with the kids: “I guess we are a happy family,” but being a single dad and father to a daughter has created major adjustments.
George received a lot of help from his family in taking of the kids even as he made adjustments in both his social and financial life.
Ikua admits that grieving never stops as “when you lose a loved one, it never goes away. The pain just dulls with some very dark days reappearing”
4. Tedd Josiah
Music Producer Tedd Josiah had all his life planned out with his beautiful wife Regina Katar but fate had other plans for the couple.
Regina lost her life after suffering from a rare disease Thrombocytopenia that saw her blood platelet count fall below normal after childbirth.
According to Tedd Josiah Regina’s platelets were so diluted, leading to a significantly reduced count. Sadly, all through she had an internal bleeding, which had not been detected, nor stopped, because of her low platelet count.
Speaking on her death he said
“Imagine calling someone your everything – home, safe place, your all – and watching them slowly fade away on their deathbed in less than an hour.
I was left on a free fall and lost. In many ways, Regina was my anchor.
I have to make a lot of adjustments; I am more hands-on with my baby.
I have to wash her, clean, cook, feed and be always there for her,” explains Josiah.
I am lucky my office is in my home so I can spend all the time I need with her.
Though it is hard for him to raise his daughter alone, he is thankful that the in-laws have been supportive.
He hasn’t forgotten his wife as he is still grieving and misses the good times he shared with Regina. The scar of that loss is quite obvious, proof that there is such a thing as true love.
Ted says that to keep his wife’s memories alive he choses to keep all her stuff so that he can pass them over to their daughter Jay.
“I kept it all. Some precious stuff will stay with me until my daughter is old enough to inherit it all…to let my little Jay know that her mom was loved, her memory was kept safe, but so were her valuable things.”
Uganda’s female artiste Julianna Kanyomozi, lost her son Keron who had been admitted at Agha Khan hospital in Nairobi after a severe Asthmatic attack.
During an interview with The Nairobian, Juliana opened up on how she was dealing with her sons death confessing that she had at one point been angry with God, but she was taking baby steps to heal.
I’ve been through a lot. I’ve always been extremely strong. But this was beyond it.
There are things that happen to you and you cannot find the perfect vocabulary to explain them.
It’s that pain that leaves you helpless and no one else but God can help!
She goes on to add
“I was very angry with God. He had just taken away the most important thing I had in life.
Then again, there’s always a reason for everything single thing. He does,” she said adding that she was not really in touch with the world at that moment.”
Juliana went on to open up on how she deals with her grief given that their is no standard way of mourning when a calamity such as death strikes.
“I have my bad days where I sit with a box of tissue and let the tears flow.
I don’t know how long it will take me to move on. It is something that will always be a part of me. I’m only being a strong woman.
In conclusion Julianna confesses that mourning is a process.
“It is all part of the healing process. I’m taking baby steps. I’m not yet there emotionally.
When you’ve gone through something like this, you have to find the strength first.”